26歲已婚育有一子…人生規劃 - 職涯

By Wallis
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我78年次,現在剛生完小孩,在家專職照顧小孩和做家事
小孩才兩個月大,但我已經開始害怕這樣的生活
我平常一個人在家,生活很單純
但正因為這種單純的生活而覺得恐懼…
覺得自己開始變笨了,好像也不太能思考太複雜的事情…
我擔心…萬一這種生活繼續下去,
我是不是就無法再回到職場了?
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我去年暑假國立四大材料所畢業,
原本有出國進修博士的計畫,托福也考了99
本來一切看似準備得差不多了…
但畢業前夕,考量到已經有穩定交往快結婚的男友,
還有家人覺得如果出國,對回台灣找工作沒幫助
更何況可能和男友分手…所以建議我先找份工作吧…
畢業後,我因為男友已經在台中某科技大廠工作,
所以我自然是選擇到台中找工作…
找了一個月,找到在某封測大廠的產品工程師,
雖然不是我最理想的公司,但為了趕快有收入,選擇了這份工作
收入很好,雖然比我男友差了一點,但我覺得很夠用
但是… 這樣的日子維持不久
我在工作不到2個月就懷孕了,是我男友計畫的
因為我們有結婚打算,他跟我一樣25歲,
但是在家族是長子長孫,父母也62 63歲了
他覺得有壓力,想快點結婚生子…
而我自己是喜歡小孩,覺得沒問題,家人也支持我早點結婚
但為了避免提親那些很麻煩的雜事(他母親很神經病)
所以他就決定讓我先懷孕,這樣就可以明正言順的結婚
所以我去年11月懷孕,當時才開始工作沒多久……
卻沒意料懷孕後的生理變化,讓我工作遇到問題
工作壓力大工時長,工作時常常需要和產線小姐爭論…
上頭直接面對副總和客戶壓力… 加上孕吐
我每天早上7點出門,寒風中幾乎是哭著騎車40分鐘去公司…晚上8點下班算早了…
後來我崩潰了,在公司也會躲在廁所哭…
於是我和老公還有自己家人討論過後,決定離職
老公是覺得自己收入還可以,所以不反對我在家待產
我家人是贊同,因為懷孕還要每天騎車40分鐘,替我擔心
好啦… 後來我從今年三月開始待產,過程中有接了一份家教
還去考了保險業務員證照,因為我閒不下來
跑去做保險,但因為也是要四處奔波,北中南跑
我老公後來極度不爽… 但我本來是不想理他
沒想到懷孕28週時胎盤出問題,醫生建議我在家臥床
所以我這次真的只好乖乖在家給老公養……
今年7月生小孩,過程也是蠻危險的
緊急剖腹發現早期胎盤剝離,我自己有危險就算了
小孩出生三天發現奶吃不下,後來住院檢查,
開刀後發現胃幽門狹窄,術後住院30幾天終於出院…
現在一個人在家帶他,老公下班時間晚,最近要開始值夜班
我實在是無法忍受一直悶在家,偶爾會推車帶小孩出門
不過還是無法解決我心中的壓力…
壓力來自於…我好想工作…想要賺錢…
會覺得很不公平,男生的生活沒變,
而我讀完國立碩士,放棄出國,放棄工作…
雖然一切都是我的選擇…但還是覺得難過
因為我知道即時當初沒結婚沒離職,遲早還是要面對
可能到了30幾歲時,身體不好了生小孩風險可能更高
我最近開始上人力銀行找工作
可是我覺得很害怕…沒有自信!
有誰會僱用一個已婚有孩子沒工作經驗的女生,
即使我學歷蠻好,英文也不錯
可是比我厲害的人有太多太多,至少他們可以全心工作
而我卻不可能晚上八九點下班(科技業)
也許能狠心一點都丟給保母…但我又無法狠心
現在我對職涯完全失去信心…也不知道自己還能做什麼
其實我對收入要求還好,至少要比保母費再高一點
然後我可以有自己的存款就好…
我媽要我去找公職…但我不知道要考什麼…也怕分發到外地
我爸我公婆要我專心帶小孩,覺得是女人的職責…
可是…如果繼續下去…
我過去努力唸的書,做的研究,一切的辛苦不就白費了?
我一直無法跳脫這些思考…
好希望有人能來讓我跳脫出來…告訴我,過去的努力都值得
我不想失去工作能力,不想沒有經濟能力…
我該怎麼辦??
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小孩才兩個月大,但我已經開始害怕這樣的生活
我平常一個人在家,生活很單純
但正因為這種單純的生活而覺得恐懼…
覺得自己開始變笨了,好像也不太能思考太複雜的事情…
我擔心…萬一這種生活繼續下去,
我是不是就無法再回到職場了?
=====
我去年暑假國立四大材料所畢業,
原本有出國進修博士的計畫,托福也考了99
本來一切看似準備得差不多了…
但畢業前夕,考量到已經有穩定交往快結婚的男友,
還有家人覺得如果出國,對回台灣找工作沒幫助
更何況可能和男友分手…所以建議我先找份工作吧…
畢業後,我因為男友已經在台中某科技大廠工作,
所以我自然是選擇到台中找工作…
找了一個月,找到在某封測大廠的產品工程師,
雖然不是我最理想的公司,但為了趕快有收入,選擇了這份工作
收入很好,雖然比我男友差了一點,但我覺得很夠用
但是… 這樣的日子維持不久
我在工作不到2個月就懷孕了,是我男友計畫的
因為我們有結婚打算,他跟我一樣25歲,
但是在家族是長子長孫,父母也62 63歲了
他覺得有壓力,想快點結婚生子…
而我自己是喜歡小孩,覺得沒問題,家人也支持我早點結婚
但為了避免提親那些很麻煩的雜事(他母親很神經病)
所以他就決定讓我先懷孕,這樣就可以明正言順的結婚
所以我去年11月懷孕,當時才開始工作沒多久……
卻沒意料懷孕後的生理變化,讓我工作遇到問題
工作壓力大工時長,工作時常常需要和產線小姐爭論…
上頭直接面對副總和客戶壓力… 加上孕吐
我每天早上7點出門,寒風中幾乎是哭著騎車40分鐘去公司…晚上8點下班算早了…
後來我崩潰了,在公司也會躲在廁所哭…
於是我和老公還有自己家人討論過後,決定離職
老公是覺得自己收入還可以,所以不反對我在家待產
我家人是贊同,因為懷孕還要每天騎車40分鐘,替我擔心
好啦… 後來我從今年三月開始待產,過程中有接了一份家教
還去考了保險業務員證照,因為我閒不下來
跑去做保險,但因為也是要四處奔波,北中南跑
我老公後來極度不爽… 但我本來是不想理他
沒想到懷孕28週時胎盤出問題,醫生建議我在家臥床
所以我這次真的只好乖乖在家給老公養……
今年7月生小孩,過程也是蠻危險的
緊急剖腹發現早期胎盤剝離,我自己有危險就算了
小孩出生三天發現奶吃不下,後來住院檢查,
開刀後發現胃幽門狹窄,術後住院30幾天終於出院…
現在一個人在家帶他,老公下班時間晚,最近要開始值夜班
我實在是無法忍受一直悶在家,偶爾會推車帶小孩出門
不過還是無法解決我心中的壓力…
壓力來自於…我好想工作…想要賺錢…
會覺得很不公平,男生的生活沒變,
而我讀完國立碩士,放棄出國,放棄工作…
雖然一切都是我的選擇…但還是覺得難過
因為我知道即時當初沒結婚沒離職,遲早還是要面對
可能到了30幾歲時,身體不好了生小孩風險可能更高
我最近開始上人力銀行找工作
可是我覺得很害怕…沒有自信!
有誰會僱用一個已婚有孩子沒工作經驗的女生,
即使我學歷蠻好,英文也不錯
可是比我厲害的人有太多太多,至少他們可以全心工作
而我卻不可能晚上八九點下班(科技業)
也許能狠心一點都丟給保母…但我又無法狠心
現在我對職涯完全失去信心…也不知道自己還能做什麼
其實我對收入要求還好,至少要比保母費再高一點
然後我可以有自己的存款就好…
我媽要我去找公職…但我不知道要考什麼…也怕分發到外地
我爸我公婆要我專心帶小孩,覺得是女人的職責…
可是…如果繼續下去…
我過去努力唸的書,做的研究,一切的辛苦不就白費了?
我一直無法跳脫這些思考…
好希望有人能來讓我跳脫出來…告訴我,過去的努力都值得
我不想失去工作能力,不想沒有經濟能力…
我該怎麼辦??
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