35歲的失敗人生後該怎麼重拾信心 - 職涯
By Freda
at 2023-02-03T01:02
at 2023-02-03T01:02
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過年後來發個文...緬懷一下年紀
順便重新省視跟沉澱自己
我屬兔 今年本命年 是36歲的大叔
很難想像 =..= 感覺自己還是個會在電腦前面顆顆笑的死鄉民宅
起手式一樣 先緬懷自己的高光時刻
高中念四省中
也是拿獎學金 大學考到理想志願跑到台南念大學
也算適應不良吧系排不知道有沒有最後10%
因為我沒念完
大四被退學 包袱款一款跑去當大頭兵
當完兵 準備重考(過程還被前女友劈腿XD)
渾渾噩噩混個地方大學的碩士畢業
大概26歲才出社會第一份工作
我想我懂你說的"不知道自己在幹嘛"的比較心態
那時候
行李打包 走出校園的時候
想起社團或是班級同學 多多少少的關心
但自己就是有種"自己跟他們不一樣了"的感覺
他們 有的準備要考研究所
有的準備當兵前預聘
而自己 還不知道自己將來的路在哪裡
這種感覺一直到剛出社會的階段也是更強烈
前幾年比工作
哪個誰誰誰跑到台積電或是外商VENDER
再過幾年比家庭
那個誰誰誰又生了第二胎或是在竹北買房
每次聽完同學敘舊的八卦分享時
都會偷偷思考說 如果當時的自己有拿到那張大學畢業證書
是不是自己也能飛的一樣高一樣翱翔
但這種感覺在30歲後就慢慢淡掉了
大概是在某次的惆悵之後
自顧反省想了個大哉問
如果自己因為大學的幾年荒廢
造成現況只能緬懷的高光時刻
那麼為什麼不把握現在幾年的不要荒廢
再試試看 給自己一個機會 再創造一次燦爛?
欸好啦
也沒那麼戲劇性
從此逆轟高灰之類的
這種鹹魚大翻身的例子可能要去仲介板或是直銷板比較有機會看到(還真的有喔!)
自己態度上的改變
就大概只是從一顆企業的小螺絲釘
變成一個更好用、更耐擰轉的螺絲釘罷了
每每處理工作上的卡關或是新任務時
都會鼓勵自己再堅持一點 再補回來一點
讓自己走的人生路至少要看的到那些同學的車尾燈
其實滿長一段時間沒自信的 汲汲營營於生存
那種被退學的恐慌 真的滿難克服的
成就感的累積也大概是在這兩三年才有體會
大概就是回頭看一下發現 "欸~自己好像過得還可以"
年薪百多萬 有房有車有老婆 今年還來補足最後的登科
Pr值應該還沒有到90%↑ PTT標準是300w年薪 我還差的遠
但CP值頗高
在嘉義這邊還算妥妥當當的生活
自己好像沒差大學那些同學很遠了
甚至 跟一些同學比過得還不錯
也開始跟大學社團同學聯絡
然後也發現
永遠走在前端的那幾個同學
其實一直在跟自己挑戰 一直在選擇中成長
想分享給板友的是
人生都是一連串的選擇跟片段串接起來
有些人可能一串一串都是閃亮亮
但大部分的人應該都是部份精彩 大多數都無光 甚至落漆
人性上 大多都把情緒聚焦在那片段精彩
我覺得心思偶爾可以佇足但不要停留
要鼓勵自己繼續走下去
當初怎麼編織出亮麗的圖紋 你就是有那樣的能力再重開機一次
PS:PO文的動力是覺得自己的心態跟以前真的變很多
包括前述的心態
還有對人生的想法
近期公司有在詢問自己前往美國廠
從理性上判斷
若出國工作對自己職涯應該是很大的助益
要是以前的自己一定是舉雙手贊成
more money more credit
但望著床上懷孕的母獸(已睡著 還打呼)
會想說是不是現在這樣就好
技能樹慢慢往經營家庭的天賦開始點
穿戴背負帶小朋友爬山的那個畫面滿帥的
這樣的人生好像也挺好玩
不知道 試試看再說XD
※ 引述《kgppra (討厭blue)》之銘言:
: 曾經學生時代也是第一志願唸上去
: 結果大學適應不良系排最後10%
: 延畢後勉強修完學分低分pass畢業逃過被退學的命運
: 但還是整個人茫然無措
: 覺得自己念不下去了
: 想出社會找工作卻又屢屢碰壁
: 好不容易找到一個職缺卻又低薪
: 而且根本不知道自己在幹嘛
: 看著大學同學不是去了美國就是待在竹科中科南科
: 這些年常常想著曾經自己也有可能是他們的一份子
: 可是現實只是一個年薪80左右的社畜
: 或許有的人覺得這樣還行 該自信一點
: 再怎麼樣在受薪階層都有PR70以上了
: 但在知道了年薪數百萬Pr9X的生活曾經離那麼近的情況下
: 再對照現在 只覺得自己很沒用
: 或許可以說是見識過了厲害的人事物之後才更懂得謙卑
: 不過謙卑跟自卑只有一線之差
: 像現在的我這樣每次想起曾經就覺得自己很沒用
: 但我知道這樣的心態很不健康
: 不管做什麼事情什麼行業都要保持內心的強大
: 不能被挫折擊垮
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