職場上的眉角(1)-新鮮人請先別怪老鳥冷漠 - 職場
By Edith
at 2020-12-25T06:49
at 2020-12-25T06:49
Table of Contents
潛水了很久
綜合一些板上的文章以及推文
以及自身的經驗
來分享一些職場上的心得
工作了十餘年
有在大型企業、公益財團法人機構、
以及在官僚體系工作過…等
和幾個年紀相仿的朋友 或者大我幾歲的同事們聊天
也歸納、並印證了許多事情 果然我們的想法是差不多的
目前 我仍在官僚體系內 年資近十年
勉強可以算是隻「中鳥」吧
分享一下 關於職場一些人際關係的眉角吧!
「新人別怪老鳥冷漠」
他們只不過是在保護自己而已
每個人都經歷過職場新鮮人的階段
在此時 與幾個同期進入的新人 感情很好
高壓的職場環境下 老鳥表現得也不是很友善
幾個同期的夥伴 在不斷的摸索當中
經歷了一段共同的革命情感
認為 「假使我們有一定的年資 一定不會如此的對待新鮮人」
很快的
三、四年過去了 關於工作也得心應手
即使不是主管階層
能夠撐下去 多多少少也有點「坎占」
和公司原本老鳥的相處與互動
也比剛進公司的時候好多了
而公司陸陸續續的 來了些年輕的新鮮人
你發現 他們感覺「好像當初進入職場的自己」
為了替他們更快速的進入狀況
於是好心的主動指導業務 熟悉環境以及工作內容
(但你身邊的同期同事 似乎都不太這麼做
心想 難道你們都忘了當時的當時的初衷嗎?)
新人「起初」 肯定是很感謝你的!
畢竟有前輩願意耐心的帶 更快速的進入狀況
因為這時 他當你還是個「前輩」
但隔了一陣子之後
你會發現 事情來得完全意想不到
第一階段:
你漸漸發現 新人開始認為你對他的好 是「理所當然」
別說「感謝」了
自然而然的 已經不會把你當成前輩敬重了
第二階段:
對於與你同期的人
那群一起進公司 有革命情感的同事
他卻還是恭恭敬敬的 視為「前輩」
還是謹慎的 與你同期的「前輩」保持一段距離
不敢造次 還是哥啊、姐啊的叫
但唯獨對你 卻是直呼名字
為什麼?因為在你對他好的這階段
他已經把你當成他的「同期」了 認為你們是「朋友」了
甚至許多造次的行為 沒大沒小的語言
你才恍然大悟
為什麼當初進公司時 老鳥會如此的冷漠?
呼應開頭 老鳥的冷漠 就是為了保護自己啊!
而一切都來不及了
你只是比較資深而已 但他「並不會認為你比他資深」
而你也不是主管
你們並沒有上下隸屬的關係 你也沒有打他考績的權力
就只能任由他把你當成同期來對待…
真的!不要小看「某些」社會新鮮人的沒sense
(我沒有要以一概全 我相信還是有不少很有sense的年輕人
但這類人 真的不算是少數)
很多事情 都是嘗過了苦頭才知道
我身邊的許多朋友(35~40歲) 喝個酒小聊一下
也都經歷過類似的事件
當然事過境遷 也都一笑置之了
就當個冷漠的老鳥 好好的做自己的事情就好
和新人就維持著一個適當 且朦朧的距離
擺著一張撲克臉 讓新人覺得你很難親近
不主動搭話 新人有問題 自然會衡量要不要來請教你
人家對你恭敬也好 畏懼也好
再怎樣 也遠比把你這前輩 當成「同期」或「朋友」
以後有機會 再來分享一些其它職場的眉角
關於「職場禁語」、「職場禁忌」
以及「官僚體制與私人民間企業」的差異吧!
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