要怎麼讓傳統型家人放手 - 工程師
By Quanna
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各位大哥大姊大德大能們好:
好不容易已經想好自己要走甚麼路但現在一件事情很困擾我。
我是8年級初一個不是很優秀聰明但滿固執的人,
遇到自己想做的事情,專注度可以很集中,沒甚麼社交娛樂。
也沒甚麼花費,興趣就是鑽研自己喜歡的事情。
國中滿混得但也過的過去所以考上不好不壞的國立高中
高中不知道未來的殘酷,是最叛逆的時候想要學很多東西
內心很想變得很風光,但其實自己個性不適合於是變得很怪,
結果導致自己沒有放得很開,東西學得很痛苦課業才藝沒有兼顧
算是最混又最失敗的尖段還因此有了精神問題不過還是有上大學,
但到了大學就讀機械工程發現自己好像比較適合靜下來研究比較硬的東西
所以想當分析設計人員,於是變得我最認真的階段,畢業也有書卷。
因為想快點賺錢所以沒讀研究所,就到了業界當設計工程師
工作一年多結果非常地不開心,因為在一個公司的大系統裡面
牽扯很多人事物導致很多東西沒辦法控制,所以離職了。
我那時候對這個困難的解法是「在相同的領域在更專業就好了」
然後一定要把外文讀起來,於是乎休息半年補這兩個東西
結果後來要找了"幾份"這種感覺還是沒消失。
(總共做了1y2m, 2.5m, 3m, 4m, 7m, 6m 共7份工作)
才發現這並不是專業問題,
而是我要專精的的作品就是一堆人分工
而且資本龐大才能做的工業產品,而且製造業的人參差不齊
所以我後來才驚覺發現是我一開始就走錯路了
而且深入了解才發現網路上有很多人都一樣抱怨這個科系
而我現在覺得寫程式才是最適合我,但要開始轉行。
重點來了,由於高中不堪的經驗加上家裡有過悲劇,
還有我的工作穩定度,再加上我們家一直是一個很農村保守的家庭,
明明經濟很無虞但我父母對我的表現一直是很不安的,
他們的期望就是我早點結婚生子有個穩定的工作做到退休。
(哪怕做的工作是7-11)
家裡的確是我的靠山,但我也受控於家裡,
我每次很想反抗但又不知道要怎麼反抗
因為家裡有祖產,覺得家族給我很多,
只要接受家族規劃的路就好了。
往好處想有些人要分擔家計,有生存困難,
而我只要想辦法在公司很穩定就好了。
但是又很想沒種的靠家裡的資源想做甚麼就做甚麼
因為我現在真的很想讀資訊碩士,
但父母不希望我搞到30歲才碩士畢業才又找工作。
我自己也有點沒自信,雖然可以很認真
但又覺得自己有點有社交恐懼跟對灰色地帶反感的特質
覺得自己沒有優秀到可以對家人予取予求
但又覺得為什麼有的人的家人就可以放手讓自己小孩搞
有點不知道這種狀況該怎麼做比較好?
我基本上在工作可以讓自己開心前,
也不想結婚生小孩跟旅遊娛樂跟社交....
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好不容易已經想好自己要走甚麼路但現在一件事情很困擾我。
我是8年級初一個不是很優秀聰明但滿固執的人,
遇到自己想做的事情,專注度可以很集中,沒甚麼社交娛樂。
也沒甚麼花費,興趣就是鑽研自己喜歡的事情。
國中滿混得但也過的過去所以考上不好不壞的國立高中
高中不知道未來的殘酷,是最叛逆的時候想要學很多東西
內心很想變得很風光,但其實自己個性不適合於是變得很怪,
結果導致自己沒有放得很開,東西學得很痛苦課業才藝沒有兼顧
算是最混又最失敗的尖段還因此有了精神問題不過還是有上大學,
但到了大學就讀機械工程發現自己好像比較適合靜下來研究比較硬的東西
所以想當分析設計人員,於是變得我最認真的階段,畢業也有書卷。
因為想快點賺錢所以沒讀研究所,就到了業界當設計工程師
工作一年多結果非常地不開心,因為在一個公司的大系統裡面
牽扯很多人事物導致很多東西沒辦法控制,所以離職了。
我那時候對這個困難的解法是「在相同的領域在更專業就好了」
然後一定要把外文讀起來,於是乎休息半年補這兩個東西
結果後來要找了"幾份"這種感覺還是沒消失。
(總共做了1y2m, 2.5m, 3m, 4m, 7m, 6m 共7份工作)
才發現這並不是專業問題,
而是我要專精的的作品就是一堆人分工
而且資本龐大才能做的工業產品,而且製造業的人參差不齊
所以我後來才驚覺發現是我一開始就走錯路了
而且深入了解才發現網路上有很多人都一樣抱怨這個科系
而我現在覺得寫程式才是最適合我,但要開始轉行。
重點來了,由於高中不堪的經驗加上家裡有過悲劇,
還有我的工作穩定度,再加上我們家一直是一個很農村保守的家庭,
明明經濟很無虞但我父母對我的表現一直是很不安的,
他們的期望就是我早點結婚生子有個穩定的工作做到退休。
(哪怕做的工作是7-11)
家裡的確是我的靠山,但我也受控於家裡,
我每次很想反抗但又不知道要怎麼反抗
因為家裡有祖產,覺得家族給我很多,
只要接受家族規劃的路就好了。
往好處想有些人要分擔家計,有生存困難,
而我只要想辦法在公司很穩定就好了。
但是又很想沒種的靠家裡的資源想做甚麼就做甚麼
因為我現在真的很想讀資訊碩士,
但父母不希望我搞到30歲才碩士畢業才又找工作。
我自己也有點沒自信,雖然可以很認真
但又覺得自己有點有社交恐懼跟對灰色地帶反感的特質
覺得自己沒有優秀到可以對家人予取予求
但又覺得為什麼有的人的家人就可以放手讓自己小孩搞
有點不知道這種狀況該怎麼做比較好?
我基本上在工作可以讓自己開心前,
也不想結婚生小孩跟旅遊娛樂跟社交....
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